I just finished watching The Duchess with Kierra Knightly and it left me completely staggered. I can't believe how much abuse women have undertaken throughout the history of humanity. I can't believe that women both in and outside of this culture continue to be abused and disrespected. I feel so sheltered by American society because abuse against women, although common, is looked down upon. Yet still, in so many other cultures, it is a part of every day life; it is expected. I probably shouldn't have watched this movie, especially since I have recently developed a little bit of resentment against everything that has to do with love and men.
I think it's disgusting for a man to take advantage of his natural strength to overpower a woman. What was given to them as a means to protect their wives and families, in many cases, has been the cause of much abuse. I know that, obviously, not all men hit their wives (duh, I mean my own dad has NEVER done that) and I know that not all men are as disgusting as the idiot in this movie but the thing of it is, how will you know you're not marrying a lunatic? How will you know your not marrying a pornography watching grosso?
Many of us are so completely overtaken by our feelings that logical thinking is automatically erased. Ask yourself this, how many times have you liked a guy that you know is TOTALLY wrong for you? A guy that you know is "no good"? I know I have. But the thing of it is, is that when you are so completely infatuated with someone-strike that-with the IDEA of someone, it is almost impossible to put those emotions to a halt. I have been so close so many times to losing friends because I'm the only idiot to tell them that their boyfriends aren't as great as they have envisioned them. But the question is, what is it about that pull between men and women that make them so willing to drop friends and family for the company of the other, for that emotion? It's really quite frustrating.
It's a scary thought. As much as I love Taylor Swift's Love Story, I know that it doesn't exist. Why? because there is no such thing as "Mr. Perfect". Which is okay, considering there is no such thing as "Miss Perfect" either. I'm sick of stupid butterflies, I want to think about love logically. Coexisting with someone for eternity can't possibly be easy. Real love takes work. Real love is not a fairy tale. There is no such thing as Prince Charming, there is no such thing as Cinderella. The only people that exist are those that live in reality. News flash: that's us. So if we don't want to be heart broken, we have to stop blinding ourselves and love people for who they truly are, not what we have picture them to be.
My mom told me this recently: she said "If you want to truly find someone that will be an eternal partner to you, someone who can be supportive and give you what you need then do this: write down now, while your NOT in "love" all the things you will never be able to tolerate in someone (for example, if he insults you, if he's disrespectful to his mother, if he is a gossip, if he hates children, etc.) and all the things that are extremely important to you ( member of the church, family oriented, etc) and don't settle for anything less. When you are considering getting married to someone look over that list and see if that person fits to those things with which you can't live with out." Anyway, I think she's right. Actually, she's never been wrong when it comes to relationships.
Anyway I'm probably just be tired and bitter over the stupid movie and will change my mind about all of this tomorrow :)
Until next time!
Ellie
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